Taking a step forward only to find out your walking backwards

Okay that title does not really make any sense. But, it really describes what I feel. Here we thought the house deal was going OK. Then we get hit with a big whammy. It seems that the mortgage lender didn't trust the previous appraisal since it was done by the same guy who did it before and he came up with the same number. So they sent their own guy to do one and he came up with a lower number. So now the whole deal is on hold while we wait for the seller to decide if he wants to redo it all and go with the lower number. We don't know what the new number is, actually we're not suppose to know about any of this it seems. We wouldn't of known if Hubby hadn't called the lender to find out whats up because we hadn't heard from him in a couple of days. I think if the seller was going to out right and say no we would of heard something by now. Our lender says we should know by the end of the week. I just hate this, I'm tired of the whole home buying thing. It's depressing, I really didn't get my hopes up till last week when we were being told that we could close this week. So then I start getting excited and packing and making future plans in my head. Now this. Goes to show I really should not ever get hopeful about anything 'cause something always happens to knock it down. The Fates must have a hay day with my emotions. My whole freakin' life is this way.
When my youngest son was born and we were getting ready to go home. I had just got dressed, was getting his clothes out to wear home. Getting excited to introduce him to his siblings and they take him to the nursery for one last time. Then we get hit with a major whammy, they hear a murmur. Turned out he had two holes in his heart. We did go home later that day, but the excitement level was way subdued. He's fine now, the holes healed on their own though he still has a slight murmur.
My own wedding was a bit of a mess, but I won't go into that too much because weddings are not suppose right. At least that's what I tell myself I guess, lol. Either that or they foretell how the rest of your life is going to be. Now that's a possibility, while I have a great marriage and a wonderful husband. Our life since we've been together has been one struggle after another. But, we pull each other up along the way and laugh about whatever problem it was later.
Well I guess I'm done posting for today. Unless of course we hear good news about the house...but I'm afraid that is over. I'm afraid the seller won't want to lower his price and so will cancel everything. He was wanting a certain amount for the place so he could buy another piece of property. I don't know, Hubby wants me to try to be optimistic about it, but my optimism flew out the window two houses ago. It seems we get right to the closing part and everything falls through.